What NOT to Put On Your Wedding Website

If you’re right in the messy middle of wedding planning, your wedding website might be the last thing on your mind, but it shouldn’t be! A good wedding website does a lot of legwork for you - communicating all the key details, sending wedding invites, collating online RSVPs, and answering guests' FAQs so you don’t have to. If that’s not enough to put creating the perfect wedding website to the top of your to-do list, we don’t know what is!

A quick online search will give you hundreds of ideas of what to include in your wedding website, but it’s easy to go overboard and share too much! If you want to avoid overwhelming or offending your guests, then read on for our guide on what not to include on your wedding website.

RSVP deadline

Most couples these days are ditching the traditional RSVP card and asking their wedding guests to RSVP online via their wedding website. If there's one piece of information you can't share too frequently, it's your RSVP deadline. As well as putting it on your wedding invitations and the main page of your website, it's also worth popping it in the FAQs just to really hammer it home!

The exact details of your guest list

Keep the ins and outs of your guest list to yourself - your friend from school doesn’t need to know she was only invited because someone dropped out! This is particularly important if you’re sending tiered wedding invitations or hosting different events, as it can be obvious that some guests are invited to a post-wedding brunch while others are only invited to the ceremony and reception, which can lead to hurt feelings!

Too much personal info

Yes, your wedding website should be personal to you, but not too personal. Sharing the story of your relationship helps to get your guests excited for the big day, and gives you a chance to go beyond the realms of a formal invitation, but nobody wants to have to read a small novel! When it comes to writing your love story, think potted history rather than Bridgerton.

All the wedding details

We get it, you’re excited about your big day, and you're dying to let your guests know what to expect! Whilst it can be tempting to share everything you have planned for your guests, half of the joy of the day is watching them explore your wedding venue and discover all the details. By all means, provide them with all the important information and hint at the overall theme through your wedding website design, but save some surprises for the main event.

Tactless wording

Saying you don’t want kids at your wedding, or that only your best mates get a plus one, are surefire ways to get some hackles up. Make sure you’re tactful in how you word this kind of thing, and soften the blow with the language that you use - saying you're having an adults-only wedding sounds much better than "no kids"!

Gift registry expectations

Whilst your wedding website is the perfect place to share your registry information, it’s a definite no-no to set out any expectations for how much your guests should spend. Make sure your wedding registry covers a range of price points and offers the chance for guests to contribute whatever they can afford to your honeymoon fund or larger ticket items.

Logistical overload

There is a fine line between providing your guests with enough information and giving them too much. Ideally, you want to communicate the essential details: the wedding date, itinerary, FAQs, and a bit about the two of you, as well as RSVP information. Ditch the minute-by-minute timeline, and avoid using too many links or external documents - keep everything nice and concise, and test drive it on your nan. If she can navigate your wedding website easily and comes away with all the essential information, then you’re onto a winner.

Other wedding events

Don’t share the details of exclusive events, such as rehearsal dinners, welcome cocktails, or any after-party or other post-wedding events, unless everyone is invited, or you can use the privacy feature on Say I do. You don't want anyone feeling left out. With a Say I do wedding website, it’s easy to send separate invitations for the various events that make up your wedding celebration, allowing guests to RSVP to whichever parts of your wedding they're invited to.

Inside jokes or TMI

Remember, your wedding website will be seen by all your guests, so you may want to reconsider sharing any intimate details, inside jokes, or incriminating photos from those nights out in your early twenties. Your close family members and wedding party might find it funny, but you’ll have your grandad choking on his tea - save the humour for the speeches when you can conveniently misplace his hearing aid!

Strong opinions

Wedding trends come and go - from meringue dresses to flashmobs and everything in between. Some trends might give you the ick, but remember you’ll have guests in attendance whose taste is different to yours, so tread carefully when you’re communicating your wedding aesthetic. If you don’t want to offend anyone, it’s best to avoid explicitly calling out traditions and details that you consider outdated.

Unclear instructions

Ensure that any instructions you hand out are consistent and clear to everyone, particularly when it comes to social media rules and whether you allow your guests to take photos on your wedding day. Stating that you're having an "unplugged wedding" could go right over the older guests' heads, whilst saying "no photos" and then giving out a wedding hashtag is equally confusing, so make sure that what you're asking of your guests and your reasons for doing so are clear.

Strict dress code instructions

When it comes to the dress code, unless you're doing something completely out of the box, like a themed fancy dress wedding, it's best to avoid being overly specific. That said, a bit of gentle guidance can be helpful when wedding guests are deciding what to wear - letting them know whether it's a formal dress code, cocktail attire, or smart casual is usually enough.