How to Choose Your First Dance Wedding Song

You might already have a song that is yours as a couple and if so, amazing, feel free to skip to the next article! But if you don’t, choosing your first dance song can be a bit of a minefield. Of course you want it to be special, but probably not too cheesy, it needs to be easy to dance to, but not too slow, or too fast!

During a wedding day there are a few songs which mark different elements of the special occasion. From walking down the aisle to signing the register, and optional background music for your drinks reception. The first dance means different things to different people. By the time it comes around in the evening you might be ready to liven things up and loosen up proceedings! Or maybe you want a beautiful, romantic tune to soundtrack your first dance as newlyweds? If you’re still not sure which route to go down, keep reading for some initial thoughts when it comes to choosing your first dance wedding song which could be a good place to start.

As we mentioned earlier some first dance songs might be chosen because they hold a special meaning for a couple. Perhaps it was the song that was playing when you first met, or when you first kissed, or proposed? Other couples may choose a song that reminds them of an event, a first holiday, gig or special occasion.

Another idea would be to simply choose a song that you both love from your favourite band or solo artist. Or if you’ve committed to a particular theme for your wedding, why not opt for a first dance song that fits in perfectly with the overall vibe of the day? Or maybe you just want the most romantic, love-filled, sentimental song to truly display how you feel about each other? None of these options are right or wrong, simply ideas to consider when you can’t decide what to choose.

We surveyed some of our Say I do platform users who are in the process of planning their wedding and asked, ‘What song will be playing during your first dance at your wedding?’. Interestingly the results were varied and wide-ranging. From ‘Coming Home’ by Leon Bridges to ‘Nothing Else Matters’ by Metallica, to ‘You’re Still the One’ by Shania Twain, to ‘Let’s Stay Together’ by Al Green, and everything else in between! If one thing is clear though it’s that Ed Sheeran reigns supreme when it comes to the most popular first dance song option.

On a practical note, it’s worth bearing in mind the kind of band you’re having when choosing a first dance song before you commit. Have a chat with them about their repertoire and enquire as to whether they’re able to play or even learn your chosen song before the big day. If not, you don’t have to discount it just yet. You could always send them the track via Spotify for them to play through their PA before kicking off the live set once the dance floor is full and the vibes are running high!

As with everything relating to your big day, don’t forget it’s all about you two as a couple. Sometimes it’s easier said than done but try not to get too distracted by what others will think. Go with a first dance song that you will cherish and remember affectionately (or burst into tears / laughter) whenever you look back at your special day.